Change is the only constant


WRITER  Kurt Vonnegut said we are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful what we pretend to be.

 But he said we could be liberated. We could decide who to be and how to be. We didn’t have to conform to society’s expectations.

 Imagination forms action and shapes our character, he said. So if we want to be different, we have to think differently.

 We might have to change the people in our lives. To think outside the box, we have to get out of the box.

 We have to realise that on a street corner, our decision to turn right or left might lead us to a person or situation that could change our lives forever.

 “Lots of turns behind me and lots ahead of me,” observed George Bernard Shaw in his 50s.

 “My life, I feel, often has changed on a whim.”

 Shaw said the only man who really understood him was his tailor.
“He takes my measurements anew every time he sees me,” Shaw said.
“The rest go on with their old measurements and expect me to fit them.”

 Change seems to be the only consistent thing in our lives.

 As the Buddha said, “all that is subject to arising is also subject to cessation”.
Or it should be. A friend said he’d heard a preacher boast he’d not changed his mind about anything theological for 40 years. He obviously hadn’t learned much in four decades.

 Writer William James said we might exist in the universe as dogs and cats are in libraries, seeing the books and hearing the conversation, but having little inkling of the meaning of it all. Until life’s experiences change and teach us.

5 thoughts on “Change is the only constant

  1. Our personalities, thought patterns and emotional responses are wired into our brains, says Richard Davidson, Ph.D., author of The Emotional Life of Your Brain, but you can change your brain. He suggests several exercises that will help rewire the neural pathways to help you think more positively, become more self-aware, focus better, understand social cues, ease your emotional triggers and grow more resilient.

    These are two of his exercises –

    Express Gratitude
    and keep a journal to daily remind yourself of what’s good in your life.

    Compliment Others
    By finding and making opportunities to compliment others, you’ll train your brain to see the good in people, in life and in yourself, says Davidson.


  2. Unwelcome change can be forced upon us.

    “Those who overcome great challenges will be changed, and often in unexpected ways. For our struggles enter our lives as unwelcome guests, but they bring valuable gifts. And once the pain subsides, the gifts remain. These gifts are life’s true treasures, bought at great price, but cannot be acquired in any other way.”
    ― Steve Goodier

    But if we surrender, admit defeat, we will be changed too. In what way is up to us – embittered, or humbled. Even relieved or comforted.


  3. To move around in the world of those who don’t have what we have and don’t envy us, can change us.. Knowing what we value might just be valueless, knowing we need to change, doesn’t happen until we move into that world.
    “We don’t think ourselves into a new way of living; we live ourselves into a new way of thinking. ”

    It is change that convinces us, not some doctrine or dogma .


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