What forgiveness is NOT

HERE is what forgiveness is NOT.
Forgiveness is not the same as excusing evil. It does not mean evildoers are excused from consequences of actions.
Forgiveness does not condone evil, and evil, on its part, cannot extinguish the power of forgiveness.
Forgiveness does not mean being a doormat for other people to walk over. It does not mean that we forget what has been done to us or to our people. It does not mean surrendering the right to justice. People have to face the consequences of what they have done.
Forgiving releases us from the punishment of a self-made prison in which we are both the inmate and the jailer.
Forgiveness frees the forgiver. It extracts the forgiver from someone else’s nightmare. It also recognises that the person we forgive is probably also a victim of their own wrongdoing.


5 thoughts on “What forgiveness is NOT

  1. I know that I am a Christian and am supposed to forgive, but I could never forgive some people, like that ‘monster’ who recently abducted a six year old boy in China and gouged both his eyes out. He doesn’t know, or remember, what happened to him and keeps on asking his parents why he is constantly in the dark. When he was found, writhing in agony, there were his eyeballs on the ground next to him.

    How could the perpetrator of that despicable crime ever be forgiven? I tell you, I am so angry right now that my thoughts are dark. These are the times when I believe an eye for an eye is justified.


    • That’s one of the basic problems with christianity, Mon.
      A non-christian can exterminate deserving vermin ( created in the image of god or not) without malice, self-justification or having to wrestle with guilt.

      BTW ~ the ‘monster’ was apparently a female who took the time ~ at the scene~ to remove the corneas before dumping the eyeballs nearby.


  2. Sounds pretty-much like revenge to me: once removed to provide the fuzzy-buzz of being a ‘good christian’.
    …a bit like the Afrikaner I know who was upset to see the beggar-kids on the church steps on his way to worship….so he looked the other way.

    “Vengeance is mine saith the lord” ~ but y’reckon there’s no reason good christians can’t stand on the sidelines cheering him on?


  3. You say Bryan that forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, yet perhaps divine forgiveness is exactly like forgetting.
    Just wondering.


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